4. The Baby
My Baby is a Dream
The Baby is here at last! And we now understand that pregnancy and delivery were just the foreplay, or the prologue, the introduction to the real event.
He regained his birthweight in a week and after a few broken nights is feeding six times a day and is easy to wind and settles nicely. I’m sure I’m going to get that first smile any time soon. His skin is perfect and the health visitor says he’s on the 60 th centile, and he’s quiet in restaurants and just loves it when his dad puts him in a sling.
Or is it another story?
He’s still a bit jaundiced and the health visitor says he’s not gaining much weight and is still on the 10th centile . He’s got this horrible rash and some funny little skin tag in front of his ear and only one crease on his palm which I googled and now it’s really worrying me. He takes two hours to feed and I’m sure he’s tongue tied but the doctor says no. He’s just a slow feeder. He can scream the place down and then vomits for England. Is it colic? He holds his head on one side and he’s had two sessions with the cranial osteopath who says it’s all treatable and will get better.
You Don’t Get to Choose
Two different stories, both believable and of course not predictable. Just part of the rich variety of the human condition.
How to deal with the tricky baby ?
Lots of support, and encouragement. Expert advice from your Team. Midwives, health visitors, doctors and, of course your mother, aunt, sister or friend may just have seen it all before.
Try to take the long term view and be patient . Everything is a phase. We all develop at different speeds and sometimes you have to take parenting a day at a time, and be prepared for as many ups as downs in those first few weeks and months.